This perspective raises an important psychological question: Is it okay to say, “This doesn’t feel like the right fit for me”?

Rutuja Varade, psychologist at Mpower, Aditya Birla Education Trust, says that many of us, regardless of our field, experience internal conflict when deciding whether to accept an opportunity. There is often FOMO (fear of missing out), disappointing others, or slowing down one’s career. However, she believes choosing not to pursue an opportunity that doesn’t align with your values, interests, or long-term vision is not a sign of weakness; it reflects self-awareness.

However, she warns that intention should not become rigid.

“As human beings, we cannot always predict which opportunity will become a turning point in our lives. Particularly in creative professions such as acting, an unexpected role may reveal a hidden strength, challenge existing beliefs, or open doors that were never anticipated. Growth often occurs when we step into experiences that initially feel unfamiliar,” Varade tells indianexpress.com.

According to her, the key is not to accept everything, nor to reject everything that feels uncomfortable. Instead, it is about asking:

• Does this opportunity align with my larger goals?
• Am I saying no because it truly isn’t for me, or because I am afraid of failing?
• Could this experience help me discover a new side of myself?

These questions help transform decision-making from an emotional reaction into a thoughtful process.

The power of intention

Professionally, Varade says that being intentional while remaining open to growth offers several benefits:

• Helps build an authentic professional identity rather than a career driven solely by external expectations.
• Improves decision-making by encouraging value-based choices instead of fear-based ones.
• Reduces the likelihood of burnout by preventing overcommitment.
• Encourages continuous learning and adaptability, qualities that are essential in rapidly changing industries.
• Strengthens resilience by helping individuals view uncertainty as an opportunity for growth rather than a threat.

Ultimately, Varade says that success is not determined by the number of opportunities we accept but by the wisdom with which we choose them. Sometimes, saying, “This may not be the right project for me,” is an act of clarity. At other times, saying, “I’ve never done this before, but I’m willing to try,” is an act of courage.

The psychologist reiterates that most fulfilling careers are built through a balance of both knowing yourself well enough to choose intentionally, and remaining open enough to discover possibilities you never imagined. “Sometimes purpose is found in waiting. At other times, it is discovered by taking a leap into the unknown. The real growth lies in having the wisdom to know the difference,” Varade concludes.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to. Always consult your health practitioner before starting any routine.